Ethical Financial Domination

FinDom, monkey kink, financial servitude, financial fetish… It has so many names. And it is a kink that is often very misunderstood. 

Most of the Findoms you see online are ruthless, mean and bratty. These women seem pushy and demanding. Many men like that, but not all.

Findoms can also be understanding, seductively sweet and devilishly fun. I myself enjoy taking on different types of personalities during play, and if a client comes to me with the desire to have a mean domme I can do that. If they want a soft, sensual domme, I can do that too.

There’s no limit (within our boundaries of course). We can set up any type of scene and trust me, I’ll have my fun with you. 

How I approach findom

I start off by asking what your budget is for play money. How much do you want to spend ideally? How about realistically?

Once an amount is set, do you like to give it all at once or stretch it out? For example, would you like one short, tight squeeze or a long drain where you feel my hand in your wallet over long periods of time?

When you tell me what your budget is I respect it, unless you ask specifically for me to push that boundary to feel the thrill of giving more and more. 

“But I’m not into findom”

You may be thinking that it’s not your thing, and you may be right (you’re probably very wrong though).

You’re seeking a domme because you want someone to dominate you. You want to surrender your power, have her take it and use it against you. 

We all know that money is power. Historically and socially speaking men, specifically white males, have been the gatekeepers to money.

Therefore it feels so good to give up your power to a domme. Giving her your money will give you that submissive rush and adrenaline you’re craving. 

Not just money but surprising her with gifts too. Either from her wishlist (here’s mine) or once you get to know her well enough with thoughtful and personal gifts. 

And don’t think that because you’re paying for a session that counts as financial domination. C’mon, don’t be cheap.

Financial domination doesn’t require you to play with big money either. For those that have smaller budgets, giving the little you have means a lot. 

Knowing that you’re working hard to play with your mistress, to give her all your hard earned money… That’s hot A. F.

Consistent small amounts will build up over time. 

In general, my thoughts on submission to me means that you want to bring value to  my life because you know that I bring so much into yours. 

You want me to live a life of ease, luxury and complete satisfaction. As your God and Goddess, you don’t want me to worry about worldly, mundane things. 

You want to make sure that I am well taken care of because it truly makes your submissive heart flutter with happiness. My joy and satisfaction is your goal.

My point

Don’t knock it till you try it. Honestly, I can’t see how a D/s dynamic wouldn’t benefit from findom. It will add spice and flavor to it. It would work to enhance and emphasize the power imbalance.

In the event that you have tried it and you had a bad to terrible experience: you may not have been well matched with that dominatrix. 

Don’t blame her if it didn’t work out. Think about what  your needs and responsibilities are.

How to have good clean fun

Honesty. Be honest about the budget you’re playing with. Dommes are not responsible for your finances, you are. If the play goes too far then you have no one to blame but yourself. 

Plus, we don’t want to break our toys. We want them to last so we can enjoy them for as long as possible.

Communication. You are responsible for communicating your own boundaries and limits. If you don’t know what they are, take some time to think about them before you reach out to any domme. 

Respect. Don’t be rude or disrespectful. That’s a surefire way to get blocked. If a domme states her boundaries respect that. No means no and nobody owes you an explanation. 

Femdoms also have to consider the same responsibilities plus more for each interaction but I will now delve into that on this blog.

Yes, fantasies around money kink are hot and fun to talk about. Ultimately though, both the Femdom and finsub need to be realistic about how to play responsibly. 

Are you interested in exploring your financial fetish? Call my findom line on NF. Tributes accepted on all my platforms: ManyVids, SextPanther, Niteflirt.